There are times when you want to help your child but you can’t. The pain that they are experiencing is part of their life lesson and you are left to aid with comfort and reassurance but change is not given to you.
There are times when you feel you should help your child, and the means to alleviate their pain exists, but the life lesson may be germinating in the sorrow and to alter the circumstance would be to delay the wisdom. (I grasped this parenting theory LATE in my mothering)
There are times when your child is hurting and their life lesson is in your wisdom. At times they reject your comfort, throwing it back at you. This will be a patience lesson for the parent. God-willing, the time will be right down the road for another go, or you may even find in time that the comfort was ingested after all.
These observations have occurred in the life of a fallible human being. Raising my children has revealed the greatest treasures in the parenting realm in that of our Father God in Heaven. There are no mistakes with Him. His word accomplishes that for which it was sent. The Father / Son bond was tested unto separation and our Redeemer cried out, “My God, My God, why have you forsaken Me?” Then with a loud cry, He breathed His last, and descended to lead forth the captives from captivity in the fulfillment of redemption from ABBA, FATHER!
I John 3:2 Dear friends, now we are children of God, and what we will be has not yet been made known. But we know that when Christ appears, we shall be like him, for we shall see him as he is.